Making a girl aware that you like her can automatically create feelings of awkwardness, whether or not she has feelings for you as well. However, if you want to take the subtle approach, you can do several things that do not involve saying the words, “I like you.” Take note of her reaction and responses to your actions, as these can give you a clue as to her true feelings as well as how awkward your actions may be making her.
Show her that you are interested by paying attention to her. Taking notice will make her feel special. Compliment her new hairstyle or mention that her sweater color really makes her eyes sparkle. Take notice of what she likes to eat for lunch or the color that she seems to prefer because she wears it so often --then, surprise her with her favorite snack or a pen in her favorite color. Make note of her mood. Tell her it’s nice to see her smiling and happy. If you notice that she seems to be a little down, ask her how she is feeling and why she isn’t wearing her usual smile.
Make hints to show that you are interested. Ask to sit with her at lunch, help her with her books or walk her to her class. Try to include her in your plans -- such as for the upcoming weekend. Say something like, “I would like to do something interesting this weekend. Do you have any special plans?" If she has no special plans and is not put off by your questions, follow up by asking if she would like to do something together. This will show her that you are interested in spending time with her. These subtle questions may also help you determine if she is seeing someone.
Connect Through Conversation
Make the most of the opportunities you have to talk to the girl you like. Listen carefully to her when she speaks to show that you are interested. Nod or smile to encourage her to keep talking. Think of interesting things to talk about, whether it is a current event or something personal. Make clean jokes -- and laugh at hers. Using humor can make you appear more likeable, notes the Social Issues Research Centre's "Guide to Flirting." Laughter is relaxing, and its presence in your conversation may increase the level of trust and attraction that she feels towards you.
Don’t Overdo Things
Watch for any signals that she is becoming uncomfortable with your advances -- such as pulling back when you touch her even slightly, declining to make eye contact, folding her arms while speaking to you or avoiding you completely. Based on past experiences, she may be sensitive to a guy getting too close. Even if she appeared to like as well, consider the fact that people can change their minds. Look out for your interests as well. Trying to pursue and attract someone who does not feel the same way about you is a sure way to set yourself up for being hurt.
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