The Body Language Your Girlfriend Uses When She Wants to Kiss You

A girl who lets her eyes wander to your lips is thinking about a kiss.
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Your date is coming to an end, and it's time to say good night. As you stand at the doorway about to say good bye, your mind is working overtime -- do I kiss her, hug her or shake her hand? If you have been paying attention to her body language, it will be obvious whether she is ready for a kiss. Don't catch her off guard if she isn't feeling the mood. She needs to anticipate and want that kiss for it to be good.

1 Wandering Eyes

If your girlfriend keeps moving her gaze from your eyes to your mouth, that is a good sign that she wants to kiss you, suggests dating expert and author Marni Kinrys on her website, If she holds your gaze and doesn't look away, that is also a signal that she is interested in a kiss, therapist and body language expert Lillian Glass tells Eyes that are softened and slightly narrowed make up the "dreamy" expression that so often precludes a kiss.

2 Soft Lips

A girl who is getting ready for a kiss will want to make sure her lips are pliable and soft, asserts Kinrys. She will do this by licking or biting her lips, while looking at you. If your girlfriend suddenly seems focused on making her lips kiss-worthy, that is a good sign that she is ready to make a move. If she combines lip licking or lip biting with a body posture that is leaning toward you, that is extra evidence that she wants to get close.

3 Casual Touches

When your girlfriend casually touches your arm, your leg or your face, she is sending the message that she wants to get closer. These behaviors are similar to a "green light" in dating, writes social and personality psychologist Jeremy Nicholson on "Psychology Today" online. Touch is a strong signal that your girlfriend is comfortable getting closer, and may be ready for that kiss.

4 Breathy Voice

A voice that dips in tone and becomes breathy may be another sign that your girlfriend is ready to smooch. What she says is not as important as the way that her voice sounds and how it makes you feel. If you still aren't sure whether your girlfriend wants to kiss you, Kinrys recommends kissing her lightly on the cheek and then lingering near her face. If she is interested, she might take the opportunity to kiss you on the lips first.

Arlin Cuncic has been writing about mental health since 2007, specializing in social anxiety disorder and depression topics. She served as the managing editor of the "Journal of Attention Disorders" and has worked in a variety of research settings. Cuncic holds an M.A. in clinical psychology.