Good Ways to Respond to Someone Flirting

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When you are young and single and someone flirts with you, it can boost your ego and inspire you to respond positively -- especially if you are attracted to the flirt. There are many positive ways to respond to flirting and some options can encourage the two of you to get to know one another a bit better.

1 Respond in Kind

An obvious response when someone flirts with you is to flirt back. Let her see that you noticed by catching her eye and then looking away to see what her next move might be. If you’re feeling a bit emboldened by the flirting, saunter over and introduce yourself with a dazzling line that lets her know you are more than a little interested. Smile and lean toward her for a few seconds and then move back into an upright position, suggests Cosmopolitan in “Flirting Moves No Man Can Resist.” Casually touch her arm or hand if it’s resting on the table.

2 Flirty Banter

A little verbal teasing is appropriate if you are open to learning more. Needle him a bit by suggesting that he looks like he should be a model for your art class or that he looks light enough to stay off your feet for a spin around the dance floor. Ask him questions that might catch him off guard, such as what planet or constellation sent him to scope out your corner of the universe or what type of animal his friend might morph into. No matter what you say, say it with confidence.

3 Keeping Up Your End

When you are sitting or standing together, get her talking about herself and show interest, recommends Seventeen in “35 of Our Best Flirting Tips.” Ask leading questions that elicit additional information and disclose some personal information of your own. Be real, because if you start piling on a load of bull, she won’t appreciate it when she discovers you've been lying to her, recommends a Huffington Post article titled “10 Summer of Sexy Flirtation Tips.” Jot down your phone number with a cute note and hand it off to her or quickly text her back if she gives you her number.

4 Stay Safe

Flirting is fun, but be safe while you are doing it. If you don’t know the person who is flirting with you, be careful how much personal information you give out and how quickly you are willing to be alone with him. If after flirting a bit, you discover he isn’t someone you want to date, employ an exit strategy, such as saying that you are meeting a friend there or you’re with friends. Thank him for the exchange and ease away to join a group of friends or have someone you know escort you out.

Rev. Kathryn Rateliff Barr has taught birth, parenting, vaccinations and alternative medicine classes since 1994. She is a pastoral family counselor and has parented birth, step, adopted and foster children. She holds bachelor's degrees in English and history from Centenary College of Louisiana. Studies include midwifery, naturopathy and other alternative therapies.

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