Ways to Become Confident Around Guys

Confidence is a learned skill.
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It can be intimidating to be around a group of guys. Especially when there's a guy in the group you like. You may feel vulnerable, shy or nervous. You don't want to say or do something embarrassing. Learning to become confident around guys is possible, though, with a little effort.

1 Body Language

Your body language reflects your confidence level, so stand up straight, keep your shoulders back and keep your head held high. When walking, walk at a normal pace. Walking too quickly can make it obvious that you want to pass by as quickly as possible, according to Rick Missimer in the HealthGuidance.org article "How to Be Confident Around Guys?" When talking with guys, do not fidget or put your hands in your pockets. A large part of communication is nonverbal, so be aware of your facial expressions, recommends the chief executive officer of Urban Balance, Joyce Marter, L.C.P.C., in the article "Confidence is an Important Determinant of Success: How to Boost Yours" on the Psych Central website. Maintain eye contact, smile and exude friendliness. Lean towards the guys to show them you are interested in what they are saying.

2 Dress for Success

Make sure that you dress well. A large part of your confidence shows through the way you dress, according to the HealthGuidance article. Dress according to the activity. For example, if you are going to a picnic, wear something casual, such as shorts or a sundress. If you're going to a nice restaurant, wear something more dressy. Don't overdo your outfit with excessive accessories.

3 Talk the Talk

Be friendly and make conversation when you are with a group of guys. Ask them about themselves, but don't speak too quickly, as it can indicate a lack of self-confidence. Show interest in what they have to say. For example, you could ask if they participate in sports, what they are studying in school or where they grew up. Give them your full attention and listen without interrupting. Don't check your cell phone or look around the room distractedly. Listen without being judgmental.

4 Be Yourself

Confidence is being aware of who you really are and what you believe, and having the guts to be yourself, says Ronnie Freedman, Ph.D., founder of Anxiety Busters, Inc., and Depersonalization Disorder Treatment.com, in the post "Confidence: The Art of Being Yourself" on her own website. Don't try to be someone you aren't. Relax and let your personality shine. Have your own opinions and know what's important to you. Don't focus on what other people's opinion of you may be. Remind yourself that you are unique and bring specific qualities to your interactions.

Stacey Elkins is a writer based in Chicago. She earned a Bachelor of Arts in psychology from Southern Illinois University in Carbondale and a Masters in social work from the University of Illinois in Chicago, where she specialized in mental health.