Ideas to Cheer Up a Grumpy Boyfriend

Offer him a smile or help him find a reason to laugh.
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Being around a grumpy person isn’t any fun. Various situations can make your boyfriend grumpy, such as making a bad grade on a test, not getting enough sleep or having a disagreement with someone. The things that will cheer up your boyfriend might vary depending on what caused his grumpiness in the first place. However, some ideas will work no matter what brought on his mood.

1 Restart the Day

Many teens don’t get enough sleep at night, which can make them grumpy, according to the National Sleep Foundation’s article, “Teens and Sleep.” For the early morning grumpiness, you might bring your boyfriend a nice healthy dose of caffeine before school starts or suggest a catnap instead of eating lunch. You could give him a vigorous head massage to wake up those grumpy, sleepy brain cells and help him concentrate better in class, according to Early activity and social contact also can help him wake up and be less grumpy, so volunteer to join him for a brisk run or calisthenics before class or work.

2 Send Electronic Cheer

You can’t be with him every minute of the day, especially if it’s a school day or workday for one of you. Text him one sincere and specific compliment every hour or so that lets him know why you think he is special. Chat with him during lunch or during a long break and tell him funny jokes. Share happy memories from a recent date or activity you shared together or talk about activities you anticipate on a date coming up soon. Suggest fun things you can do together during free time, such as flying a kite or watching a movie you both want to see.

3 Battle Negative Anticipation

Some people get grumpy when they have a problem to solve or face an undesirable situation, such as returning to work or school after a fun weekend or taking a test. Offer to help him prepare for the test or promise to meet him after school for a snack. Listen to him as he explains why he doesn’t want to go to class or work. Distract him with a game, a movie or your favorite song.

4 Step Back or Step Up

Sometimes it’s best just to let the grumpy person work out the situation alone while you do your own thing. If your boyfriend is more than the usual kind of grumpy, such as talking about wanting to die or threatening his life or someone else’s, ask someone for help, such as a teacher, counselor or medical professional, or call 911 if the situation is imminent. Never ignore someone who expresses suicidal thoughts or wishes to hurt someone else.

Rev. Kathryn Rateliff Barr has taught birth, parenting, vaccinations and alternative medicine classes since 1994. She is a pastoral family counselor and has parented birth, step, adopted and foster children. She holds bachelor's degrees in English and history from Centenary College of Louisiana. Studies include midwifery, naturopathy and other alternative therapies.