Declining a date can be awkward.

Receiving an offer to go out on a date from someone who you are not interested in or you simply cannot consider dating due to your current relationship can be awkward. Yet, it doesn't have to be. In fact, you can politely decline the invitation without stepping on his feelings.

Be truthful. Don't consider making up false excuses to avoid an uncomfortable situation.

Smile politely and say, "Thank you for asking, but I'm going to have to say no."

Reinforce your answer by stating that you are already in a committed relationship and dating is not an option or that you consider her just a friend, if appropriate.


  • Don't feel as if you have to give an explanation of why you are refusing, if you don't want to do so. Politely decline and leave it at that.

    State to a person you are somewhat interested in but not ready to date, "Thanks for asking, but I'd like to get to know you a little better." You can exchange telephone numbers or contact each other on social networking sites before committing to a date.


  • Avoid leading him on by saying you are otherwise engaged during the date/time he proposes. He just may ask you again, leaving you to come up with another excuse or hurt his feelings by telling him the truth.