How to Say Goodbye after a Date

Consider arranging for separate transportation to and from the date.
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When it comes to ending a date, especially with someone new, it can be difficult to know exactly how to say goodbye, especially if you aren’t sure if you will have another date. Your dating partner might use body language to signal if a physical connection is acceptable, reports the eHarmony staff in “How to End a Date Gracefully.”

1 Let’s Do This Again

If the date went well, consider a chaste hug or kiss to end the date. Make the kiss brief and tongue free, advises eHarmony staff, leaving more affectionate responses for later dates. Verbal cues signalling that your date is open to affection include leaning in toward you, gentle touches during the date and offering a phone number or email so you can schedule another date. If you want him to make the first move, linger at the door, play with your keys or touch him to signal that you would welcome his touch, suggests Jessica Hartman on eFlirt Expert.

2 I’m Not Sure

If you’re not sure that you want another date, it’s okay to exchange a quick hug and express appreciation for the date before leaving, but no physical touch is required. Don’t make promises you won’t follow through with, such as saying you will call if you need to think about whether this person is a good fit for you. Exit with a “See you around” or “Have a nice evening” or just a wave of your hand as you part company.

3 Thanks, But No Thanks

Some dates don’t go well and you're glad to escape when they are over. It’s okay to beg off saying that you have an early morning appointment or work to finish, suggests staff writer Amanda Greene in “How to Say 'Goodbye' in Any Situation” for Woman’s Day. No physical contact is necessary. Do thank your date for her time and effort. If you really want to send a “not interested” message, pay your bills separately, suggests Jonathan Pitts for Health Guidance.

4 A Few Tips

You are not obligated to kiss, hug or show any affection to your date, regardless of how well or badly things progress. Be honest with your date if the chemistry isn’t there, perhaps by saying, “I had a nice time, but I just don’t see this going anywhere.” Don’t leave your date with false hope that you will call or be open to anther date if you aren’t. It’s much more compassionate to leave your date with a clear message that once was enough.

Rev. Kathryn Rateliff Barr has taught birth, parenting, vaccinations and alternative medicine classes since 1994. She is a pastoral family counselor and has parented birth, step, adopted and foster children. She holds bachelor's degrees in English and history from Centenary College of Louisiana. Studies include midwifery, naturopathy and other alternative therapies.