How to Thank a Pastor for Preaching at a Funeral

Send a personal note of thanks to the pastor.
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In the grief and chaos surrounding a loss, it can be easy to lose track of details like etiquette. However, it is always appropriate to send formal thanks to your pastor for the sympathy, respect and kindness he shows by officiating the service. Although many pastors don't charge a fee for funeral services, it is customary to give them an honorarium before the ceremony. This gift is separate from a thank-you letter, though, and you should send both.

Select a thank-you card that you feel expresses your sentiment well. If you can't find one, a blank card in which you write your own personal message is equally suitable.

Address the pastor in the card the same way you address him in person. For example, if you call your pastor "Pastor Robertson," begin the note "Dear Pastor Robertson"; if you call your pastor "Dave," begin the note "Dear Dave." Write the note by hand, in pen.

Write two or three sentences personal to your pastor expressing your thanks. You might mention how your deceased loved one felt about the pastor, something the pastor said or did during the sermon that moved you, or simply how grateful you are that he was able to officiate.

Finish the note with a personal closing, such as, "With love and thanks" or "Blessings to you and yours," rather than "Sincerely" or "Cordially." Sign your name beneath the closing.

Mail or deliver the note to the pastor within two weeks of the funeral. If you forget and remember later, send it when you remember.

Stephanie Mitchell is a professional writer who has authored websites and articles for real estate agents, self-help coaches and casting directors. Mitchell also regularly edits websites, business correspondence, resumes and full-length manuscripts. She graduated from Syracuse University in 2007 with a Bachelor of Fine Arts in musical theater.