How to Talk My Parents Into Letting Me Have My Own Room

Offering to help your parents around the house demonstrates mature behavior.
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If you feel the need for privacy but are stuck sharing a room with a sibling, you probably feel overwhelmed and desperate to have some independence. Perhaps you are a teenager who feels the need to have your own space to explore your interests and get some time away from everyone in the house. Maybe your sibling wakes you up by getting up too early or stays up too late for your taste. There are many reasons you may want your own room, but until you can talk your parents into the idea, you may have to deal with sharing a space.

Find the cause of their hesitation. You may not be able to find any reason you should not have your own room, but your parents most likely have valid reasons for their resistance. Perhaps they would like to have a spare room in the house for when guests come, so that visitors do not have to camp out on the couch. Maybe they think you will sneak friends into your room late at night and want a sibling around to keep you accountable. Ask your parents what their concerns are, and be prepared to listen to their responses.

Fill them in on the benefits. Informing your parents of the advantages of having your own room will help them understand your perspective. You may be desperate for some quiet study time and know you will do better in school if you have your own room to focus in. Perhaps having your own room will give you a sense of responsibility, especially if you have to make sure it is constantly organized and presentable to guests. Explain how you feel and let your parents know that having your own room is beneficial in more than one way.

Strike a deal. Your parents may be willing to give you your own room, but only if you are trustworthy and they know you will keep it looking nice. Offer to make your bed each morning and do a weekly deep cleaning of your room, which involves vacuuming, dusting and organizing. You may also make a deal to clean another room of the house. Finally, if having quiet study time is one of the reasons you want your own room, explain that you will aim for a higher grade point average if you get to have your own space.

Commit random acts of kindness. Offer to help your mom with the dishes or rake the leaves for your dad. Doing small things for your parents will show them that you are responsible. If you act like an adult, they will be more likely to treat you accordingly and give you some freedom. Taking on one new responsibility at a time may be all it takes for them to see that you more than deserve a room to yourself.

Kristen Moutria has a Bachelor of Arts in psychology from Evangel University. She is currently pursuing her Master of Arts in education from the University of Nebraska.