Whether you were high school sweethearts or met once you got to college, having your girlfriend break up with you during college isn't exactly easy. That said, you don't have to wallow in your sadness or cry into your coffee on the quad. You can pick yourself up, get over the girl and get on with your co-ed life.
Find Your Friends
Going it alone isn't the top idea when it comes to getting over your girlfriend. Supportive friends can help you to cope with the pain that you're feeling, according to the article "Love and Romance" on the TeensHealth website. Hang out with your dorm- or house-mates, hit the campus coffee shop with your lab partner or call up other college friends. If you've just started college and haven't yet met friends that you feel comfortable leaning on, call or text a friend from home. Even though you're far away, friends from high school can still provide you with a sympathetic ear.
Your friends aren't the only ones who can help you get over your college breakup; don't discount the power of your family. Call home or set up a regular video chat with Mom, Dad and your siblings. The comfort that a sense of home brings can help you through this tough time. On top of the comfort factor, Mom and Dad have years of experience on you and can offer advice that your friends may not even think of. For example, Dad can tell you about the time when his first college girlfriend broke his heart and how he got through it by joining the school's theater troop.
Stop Social Media Contact
Just because you check your Facebook page five times a day doesn't mean that you have to constantly look to see where your ex is and who she's with. Think of the saying, "Out of sight, out of mind" when it comes to your social media use. Seeing pictures of her hanging on some other guy at a frat party or reading posts from her new boyfriend on her wall won't help you to get over your ex easily. Don't tempt yourself by staying cyber "friends" with your ex. Delete her from your friend list and mentally move on.
Take this time as an opportunity to expand your social circle and try out some new activities, suggests author Gina Barreca in her article "How to Act After a Break-Up: 5 Things to Remember" on the "Psychology Today" website. Your college campus is likely to have an array of opportunities to try out. For example, join an academic club or council that focuses on your major area of study or try an intramural sport.
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