In a healthy relationship, you are responsible for your own happiness, according to the article, "What is a Healthy Relationship?" on the Healthy Place website. Both people in the relationship have control over getting their needs and desires met. You can't be everything to each other. Friends, family members, co-workers and others can contribute to meeting your needs for love, intimacy, admiration and affection. You can share mutual happiness with one another.
Agree to Disagree
Make time to talk to your partner on a regular basis. When issues arise, you will have an increased ability to open up and talk about it. If an issue arises which the two of you are unable to agree on, rather than continuing to fight about it repeatedly, agree to disagree and move on, according to the article, "Building a Healthy Relationship From the Start," published by the University of Texas at Austin. When you are both calm, brainstorm ways you can compromise regarding the issue at hand.
Create a Road Map
There is generally a feeling of excitement and desire early on in a relationship, but ongoing effort and compromise is essential to maintain a successful long-term relationship, according to the University of Texas at Austin. As your relationship unfolds, talk about how your families dealt with conflict, your religious preferences as well as financial issues. Communicate your expectations regarding issues that would result in terminating the relationship. For example, if your partner enjoys having lunch with co-workers of the opposite sex but you feel uncomfortable with that, you need to discuss the issue reach a compromise, says Healthy Place.
On the Right Track
People are busy and relationships can become strained if couples fail to take the time to talk and listen to their partners. If you have something important to share with your partner, be sure you have her undivided attention. This gives her the opportunity to listen to you and provide necessary feedback to make sure she understands you. Speak clearly and be direct regarding what you need from her. For example, you might say, "Honey, I'd like to spend more time together, just you and I. I have been missing you." She is more likely to respond in a positive manner.
Being in a relationship means that you will disagree with your partner from time to time. Rather than resorting to damaging behaviors such as yelling, withdrawing from your partner or name-calling during an argument, try hearing your partner's point of view, showing empathy and trying to find humor in the situation, according to the American Psychological Association. For example, your partner may feel he can make large purchases without discussing it with you first. Rather than react in an angry or controlling manner, sit down and discuss how you feel about it with him. Calmly say, "I am concerned because we have bills to pay and you recently spent $400 without letting me know. I would feel better if we could discuss any possible purchase over $150 before either of us makes it. Does this work for you?" Listen as your partner answers you and negotiate until you reach a compromise you can both live with.
- Polka Dot Images/Polka Dot/Getty Images