How to Not Get Jealous of Your Boyfriend's Friends That Are Girls

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They text, they call and they hang out with him even when you're not around. If your guy's girls are getting you down, understanding that they're just his friends can help you to make the most of this challenging situation. Even if the jealousy is getting to you, trusting your boyfriend and believing in his honesty is an essential part of your relationship.

1 Trust Him

While jealousy is a completely normal reaction to seeing your boyfriend with other girls -- even when they are just his friends -- you have to make the decision to trust him if you want to get over your negative feelings. This helps you to control your feelings and your reactions to spurts of jealousy, according to the TeensHealth article "Am I In a Healthy Relationship?". Keep in mind that trust doesn't happen overnight. It takes time to build up. As your guy continues to be open and honest with you, you'll eventually develop a sense of trust in him that will lessen your jealousy.

2 More Than a Little Respect

Respect in a romantic relationship means that you value the other person's beliefs and boundaries, according to the article "What's Your Relationship Reality?" on the website. Even if you don't understand how a boy and a girl can be friends without anything else going on, it doesn't mean your guy feels the same way. Show some respect for his beliefs about friendship and take a step back, accepting that he thinks people of the opposite sex can connect on a friendship level without any chance of romance. You should also respect his boundaries when it comes to his female friends. Don't sneak a peak at his texts to his "girl who is a friend" or stalk his friends on social media sites. Instead, focus on the fun you have together and the positives in your relationship.

3 Girls' Night Out

If you're feeling jealous because you don't know much about your boyfriend's girl friends, put your mind at ease by getting to know them better. This doesn't mean that you'll end up best friends with his gang of girls, but you can at least hang out with them a few times to see what's really going on. It's possible that the picture in your mind is much worse than reality. If you think that your guy's female friends are all over him every time that they're together, seeing how they interact for yourself can help to put out any jealous feelings. Ask your guy if you can tag along on an evening out or see if his best girl friend and her boyfriend want to double date with you.

4 Your Social Circle

Stop focusing on your guy's girl friends, and start paying more attention to your own. For example, if you can't stop thinking about your boyfriend being surrounded by his circle of girls when they all go to a club on Saturday night, take your mind off of your jealousy and go to the movies with your best buds or have your gang over for a friendly dinner. It's healthy to maintain your own interests and friends apart from your significant other and it's harder to hold on to those jealous feelings when you're too busy having fun of your own, too.

Based in Pittsburgh, Erica Loop has been writing education, child development and parenting articles since 2009. Her articles have appeared in "Pittsburgh Parent Magazine" and the website PBS Parents. She has a Master of Science in applied developmental psychology from the University of Pittsburgh's School of Education.