What Do Girls Expect on the Second Date?

Pace your signs of affection so you don't come on too strong.
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The good news is that securing a second date means that something went right on the first one. The challenge, however, is figuring out exactly what the girl you're taking out expects now that you're past the initial getting-to-know-you outing. Certain behaviors, such as showing up on time, dressing for the occasion and keeping your cool, are appropriate for any date, according to The Emily Post Institute in "Dating 101: Small Things That Make a Big Difference." On the second date, though, you should focus on building from the foundation of your first date without moving too fast.

1 Picking Up From Date One

When figuring out how intimately to act toward a girl you've only been out with once before, consider what level of affection was shown on your first date. If you kissed her briefly on the cheek at the end of the night, an equally brief peck on the mouth might be appropriate at the end of your second date, assuming things go well. Also, reflect on the first date when it comes to conversation. Your date will expect you to remember important details she mentioned to you then. Asking about rehearsals for her upcoming play, for example, will show her that you pay attention and that you care about what is going on in her world.

Jae Kemp has been writing and editing professionally since 2010. In addition to reviewing novels, memoirs and psychology/self-help books for major review services, Kemp has served as a copywriter, commercial and creative editor, and staff article writer.

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