What Do You Do When Your Boyfriend Seems Not Into You Anymore?
BECKY SWAIN
LIFE
Relationships can withstand multiple encounters with stormy weather. It is normal for you and your boyfriend to experience happy times and disagreements. If your instincts tell you that something is not right, don’t panic. You may fear that a break-up is in your future, but consider other factors that may influence your boyfriend’s behavior.
1 Don't Chase
An argument with a parent or a failing grade on an exam may prompt you to seek comfort with someone who has a patient ear and caring attitude. Conversely, your boyfriend may fall silent or simply disappear. The difference in your responses to stress is common, according to psychologist Rick Nauert in the Psych Central article, “Men Respond to Stress by Shutting Down.” Your boyfriend may be experiencing a problem at home or school that he can’t process. Men sometimes need alone time to regroup emotionally. Give your boyfriend time and space to address the problem.
2 Observe Your Moody Guy
Your mood changes from time to time and the same goes for your boyfriend. His moods may be more difficult to read and understand, according to psychologist Darlene Mininni, quoted in the Today article, “How to Deal With a Moody Man.” For example, your boyfriend’s mood may appear different when he’s hanging out with his friends from school and when he’s spending time with you. Ask him why his behavior is different and listen to his explanation.
3 He's Too Comfortable
It is possible that your boyfriend is taking you for granted because he’s comfortable in the relationship, according to psychologist Susan Krauss Whitbourne in the Psychology Today article, “The 9 Most Common Relationship Mistakes.” Tell your boyfriend that it’s hurtful when he forgets to give you the attention you need and deserve. If you say, "It hurts my feelings when you ignore me," it may help your boyfriend understand how you feel.
4 Move On
Be aware of signs that your relationship is in trouble. Communication was necessary at the very onset of your relationship, and it is vital now. If the silence is deafening except when you are yelling at each other and your boyfriend doesn’t want to talk about the fact that he doesn’t want to talk, you may be headed for a breakup. Other predictors of a breakup include a boyfriend who disappears when you have a date, doesn’t answer his phone or return text messages. These signals communicate that your boyfriend is not really into you. You deserve more. Be prepared to leave him in the dust. Move forward.
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