How to Become Close to Your Boyfriend

Be the person he knows he can rely on.
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The most special relationships in your life require the most hard work to keep them running smoothly. The process of getting close to your boyfriend can be challenging, but it helps to know how to make him fall for you by being there for him and making him feel good about himself. When you develop a close bond with him, you’ll have the foundations of a relationship you can build on for a long time to come.

1 Million Dollar Hug

Touch is one of the most important and necessary ways to show affection. It shows that you have an emotional bond with your guy. Most people are not given enough physical affection and they are starved of it, according to psychotherapist Barton Goldsmith in his "Psychology Today" article “10 Tools to Get Closer With the One You Love.” Hold hands, hug and cuddle with one another on a park bench. This will demonstrate your affection and help you get closer to your boyfriend.

2 Make Him Comfortable

Allow him to tell you about his life. You can make him feel comfortable with you by being there for him whenever he needs someone to talk to. Listen to what he has to say, and try not to judge. Sometimes simply making eye contact and nodding your head is all that is necessary to show that you are listening. Avoid questions like, “Why did you do that?” because they can make him feel judged, which will make him reluctant to share information with you. By allowing him to express himself with you, he will feel comfortable, and your relationship will strengthen.

3 No. 1 Cheerleader

Show him that you truly care about him by being on his side when he faces challenges. The more commitment there is in your relationship, the closer you and your boyfriend will be, suggests a 2007 study in the “Journal of Adolescence” by researcher Geertjan Overbeek and others titled “Brief Report: Intimacy, Passion and Commitment in Romantic Relationships.” When he faces a test at school, send him a sweet text wishing him luck. And when he complains about the unfairness of one of his grades, try to see his perspective, even if you know he didn’t study as much as he needed to. Later, when he is no longer upset, offer to study with him. Actions like these will let him know that you want to see him succeed and be the best person he can be, which can make him feel drawn to you.

4 Allow Him to Support You

You can become closer to your boyfriend when you allow him to get closer to you. The real you, that is. When you are going through a difficult time with family or school, instead of retreating into your room and avoiding calls, you can allow him to simply be there for you. Welcoming his support will make him feel needed and wanted by you. This, in turn, can make him feel more connected to you. Your relationship will hit new heights because he knows he can be there for you, no matter what happens.

Nina Edwards holds a doctorate in clinical psychology and has been writing about families and relationships since 2000. She has numerous publications in scholarly journals and often writes for relationship websites as well. Edwards is a university lecturer and practicing psychologist in New York City.