How to Stop Feeling Sorry for Myself Since My Ex Dumped Me

Spending time with friends may help you stop feeling sorry for yourself after a breakup.
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A breakup may leave you feeling depressed and fearful about returning to the single life. Feelings of self-pity and trying to figure out what you did to cause the split are also common post-breakup experiences. Though time can be your greatest ally after an ex dumps you, several other ways exist to stop feeling sorry for yourself after a breakup.

1 Taking Time to Heal

Whether the breakup was drawn out or it came as a surprise, feelings of pity, anger and depression can be normal. Writing out your thoughts in a journal, getting plenty of exercise and eating nutritious foods can all be ways to help you stop feeling sorry for yourself, according to Professor Preston Ni, in the "Psychology Today" article, "The Break-Up Cure: 7 Ways to Help and Find Happiness Again." Focusing on your positive traits, but also giving yourself the opportunity to grieve over the relationship, can also put you on the path to healing, according to the KidsHealth article, "Getting Over a Break-Up."

2 Getting Involved

Your new single life can also mean more time to put into volunteering and other pursuits. Reading to young children, volunteering at a homeless shelter or donating old clothes, books and toys can help you feel better about yourself, according to the Center for Young Women's Health article, "How to Deal with a Breakup." Organizing a fundraiser in your community or writing to local representatives about an issue that concerns you can also help you feel valued.

3 Talk it Out

Going through a breakup can be tough - but family members and friends can see you through this difficult time. Talking about the breakup with those who know and care for you can help you heal, according to the Help Guide article, "Coping with a Breakup or Divorce." This can also be an opportunity to get back to your daily social routine. Spending time with friends, baby-sitting younger siblings or getting involved with clubs at school can also put you into a better frame of mind after a breakup.

4 Getting Help

Though people usually feel better with time, your sorrow may continue or intensify after the end of a relationship. If you find yourself using drugs or alcohol to cope with the pain, or if depression is interfering with your daily life, it may be time to talk to a counselor or therapist, according to the Help Guide article, "Coping with a Breakup or Divorce."

Candice Coleman worked in the public school system as a middle school and high school substitute teacher. In addition to teaching, she is also a tutor for high school and college students.