How to Cure a Heartbreak After a Long-Term Relationship
Whether an ended relationship is your first or one of many breakups, the effects feel the same. As agonizing as a heartbreak is, when the pain is fresh, then teens and 20-somethings may find it difficult to concentrate at school, work or home. Though time will be your greatest ally and the eventual remedy for your ache, several things exist that you can do move on from your broken heart.
1 Processing the Emotions
No one will expect you to recover from a breakup immediately, and going through the grief -- rather than ignoring it -- can help you move forward, according to the GirlsHealth article, "Getting Over a Breakup." Writing out your thoughts in a journal and listing your positive attributes can be helpful. Even crying is helpful to alleviate emotional pain. Talk to a supportive friend or family member who can help you see the situation objectively and who can remind you that you have much to offer to friends and future romantic partners.
2 Having Fun
Maybe you were always interested in exploring a new hobby, like learning a foreign language, but never had the time to do so. Creating a list of new activities you would like to try and seeking them out can be beneficial, according to GirlsHealth. Spending time with friends doing activities you enjoy, like going to the theater or hanging out at your favorite restaurant, can also keep you from feeling isolated with painful thoughts about the breakup. You might also look forward to seeing relatives you have not seen in a while, such as a grandparent.
3 Getting Involved
An ended relationship often means that you have more free time, and an opportunity to find new outlets in spending your free time. Take on more responsibility at work or school. In other cases, you might find heartbreak more manageable by helping others. Organize a food drive, volunteer in local schools or donate old toys and books, which will help you feel more productive and better about yourself, according to the Center for Young Women's Health article, "How to Deal with a Breakup."
4 Additional Help
Some people may try to move on from heartbreak by quickly getting involved with someone else, or by trying to stay friends with the ex in hopes of resuming the relationship. These strategies can hinder your healing, according to counselor Nathan Feiles in the "PsychCentral" article, "How to Get Over a Breakup." Try to maintain your daily routine after a breakup and get plenty of sleep, exercise and proper nutrition. If you feel you can focus on little else but the breakup and that this preoccupation affects your life, a therapist or counselor may help you move forward.