So you have feelings for a guy in your life and you are enjoying everything that comes with it, such as the butterflies when you see him, the laughs at all his jokes or the extra time you spend getting ready. However, if you're not sure whether the feelings are returned, you may want to pay attention to his actions and how he's treating you. He may already be letting you know whether he sees you as his pal or much more.
One of the Guys
When you're in the dreaded friend zone, he talks to you as a buddy. So, as opposed to sharing his thoughts or getting to know you a bit better, the conversation is often related to anything but the two of you. Suddenly, you're totally up to speed on his game-watching plans, drinks with the guys or other people he finds attractive. In other words, nothing about the two of you. This is definitely "just friend" territory.
There's Another Person in the Picture
It's natural for a single guy to play the field. However, if he goes from casual dating to narrowing down his interests to another special someone, then it's a pretty safe bet that he isn't quite interested in you that way. Essentially, he'll keep you on his radar if he's got his eye on you. Otherwise, he spends time dating until he finds one that makes him willing to stop seeing other people.
He Isn't Acting on It
Has he made any suggestions about his attraction? Has he suggested the two of you spend one-on-one time in the form of a date? If the answer is no, then he's not thinking of you in a romantic way because you haven't given him reason to act. Therefore, he has no reason to consider you as anything more than a friend. According to Jeremy Nicholson, M.S.W., Ph.D., a person ends up in this predicament because they don't have the courage to ask and end up becoming too passive about what they want. In turn, they settle for less and end up in the friend zone.
He's Not Jealous
When you like someone, you want him to react when you seem interested in someone else. Not only is he protecting you, but it's also a reminder of the fact that you're not together. But instead of getting any reaction, your flirting with or talking about other guys is met with indifference. This is a sign that he doesn't see you as a potential love interest.
Change the Game
Ultimately, when you're into someone, you want to do what you can to get them to notice you. While you can't make someone feel what isn't there, there are things you can do to help your situation along. The rest is up to him, but at the very least you can help put your feelings out there.
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