Psychological Connections to Your First Sexual Partner

Individuals develop lasting emotional connections to their first romantic partners
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The experience of first romantic love can be more intense and intriguing than relationships that are formed in adulthood. Young people are more moved by the closeness of a romantic relationship with a peer after having only known such intimacy with their parents. These early intimate interactions can have significant effects on the choices made in romantic partners later in life. These emotional and mental connections are as uncontrollable as they are unconscious.

1 Emotional Dependency

Marnia Robinson, author of “Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow” and several other books related to the biology of intimate relationships makes the conclusion that individuals are much more likely to develop an addiction to the pleasurable sensations of being in love as well as to the romantic partners. As a result of the various factors that are involved in being in love, young lovers may be excessively sensitive to the words and actions of their significant others, becoming easily offended at even minor slights and being thrilled at signs of attention and affection.

2 Possessiveness

Young romantic partners spend as much time as possible with their romantic partners. These can include in person connections such as at their hanging out at favorite spots, going out on dates, calling, texting, emailing or connecting through any other of the wide range of alternatives available to connect that exist today. When not actually communicating with a romantic partner, individuals may spend the space in between thinking about the last moments spent together and envisioning when they will reconnect again. According to psychologist Carl E Pickhardt, Ph.D. author of 15 books on parenting, young lovers will expect their partners to make more time for them above all others.

3 Honesty and Trust

First time experiences of romantic love have even more heightened sensations from having someone to be completely open with and with whom they can share all their dreams, hopes and fears. This relationship is inclusive of a committed friendship and provides a confidante, even beyond a best friend.

4 Completeness

When individuals fall in love for the first time they can find enjoyment in having a partner that gives them a feeling of completeness. The relationship sets the stage for the merging of two beings, closer than the bonds of friendship. Each individual is in tune with the feelings and moods of the other, not feeling completely whole without the other.

Latoya Newman is a novelist who wrote and published her first novel in 2012. She has a background in education, research and counseling. She taught at the elementary level for eight years, and has a Bachelor of Arts in psychology from York University in Toronto, Canada.