Sometimes men do strange things to show their interest in a woman. Some behaviors may be an effort to get your attention, while others may be more subconscious. While a man's actions may seem odd, they could also just be his way of letting you know how he feels about you.
Insulting and Teasing
It is not uncommon for a man to tease a woman he has a crush on. He may flirt by saying something insulting, like, “You are so bad at driving!” or, "I don't trust the food you cooked." Although what he says may seem mean, his tone may be playful and mischievous. The study, “Teasing in hierarchical and intimate relations” published in the “Journal of Personality and Social Psychology” in 1998, looked into teasing in a romantic relationship. The study found that men took playful insults and teasing from their partners better than women did. Men were more likely to see teasing as a form of affection, whereas, women were more likely to be offended by it. If he says something rude, but in a playful tone, it may just be his way of showing that he cares about you.
Putting Himself at Risk
Men sometimes show off in crazy ways to get attention from women, even risking their health and safety to do it. According to the study “The Presence of an Attractive Woman Elevates Testosterone and Physical Risk Taking in Young Men” published in “Social Psychological and Personality Science” in 2010, found that young adult men took bigger risks when performing skateboarding tricks in front of attractive women. They found that testosterone levels increased when a man was showing off in front of a woman, compared to when he was performing in front of a man. You might think that crazy stunt he is doing is stupid, but he might just be trying to impress you.
Showing His Soft Side
Generally, a guy likes to appear strong and manly as a way to show a woman he can take care of her, but when he is interested in a deeper relationship, he will let her take care of him sometimes. According to clinical psychologist Henry Cloud in the article "6 Strange Boyfriend Behaviors" in "Cosmopolitan," a man may let himself become vulnerable around a woman he trusts. He may open up about his deepest thoughts or personal feelings as a way to get closer to you and receive your comfort.
Talking About Other Girls
If a guy brags about other girls, he may not be doing it to show you he is interested, but instead, is trying to make you jealous. The study "Tickling the monster: Jealousy induction in relationships," published in 2005 in the "Journal of Social and Personal Relationships" found that one of the ways people make their romantic interests jealous is by talking about other potential romances as a way to show they are desirable. He might talk about good memories with his ex, how the lady at the coffee counter flirted with him, or how he thinks a friend is attractive. He could he doing this to provoke jealousy in you and keep you interested.
- Journal of Personality and Social Psychology; Teasing In Hierarchical and and Intimate Relations; Dacher Keltner, et. al.
- Cosmopolitan: 6 Strange Boyfriend Behaviors
- Social Psychological and Personality Science; The Presence of an Attractive Woman Elevates Testosterone and Physical Risk Taking in Young Men; Richard Ronay and William von Hippel
- Journal of Social and Personal Relationships; Tickling the Monster: Jealousy Induction in Relationships; Amy Fleischmann, et. al.
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