Churches typically have many forms of women's fellowship groups. Sometimes these groups are made up of people who haven't all necessarily met before, and that can make the first meeting a little awkward. To help smooth the process, a group moderator can schedule an icebreaker -- some activity that allows people to relax and get to know one another. Humor helps; anything that gets people laughing is a good idea.
Silly questions are a non-threatening way to get the ball rolling. Ask: "What sci-fi movie most represents your personality? What animal would you be, if you could? If you had a superpower, what would it be, and why? Would you rather be Celebrity X or Celebrity Z?" Or the ever-popular: "If you were on a desert island, and could choose only two things to take with you, what would they be?"
Ask group members about their favorite things. Ask: "What's your favorite color? What's the best book you've read recently? Tell us about your all-time favorite pet." Ask which are their favorite gems, childhood memories, hobbies, historical persons or holidays. Be sure to also ask why: the reasons for a woman's choices often convey the most about her.
"Worst of" questions are often fun, and can include: "What's the worst TV ad you ever saw? What's your worst mishap with somebody else's pet? A pair of shoes? New hairstyle/office product? What's the worst restaurant experience you ever had? The worst car you ever owned? What was your worst vacation?"
Sometimes it may be faster just to cut to the chase and let people tell their own stories. Ask: "What's the funniest/craziest thing that's happened to you lately?" These stories are often better than any you might think to ask about. However, be sure to impose a time limit, to prevent any one storyteller from using up too much time.
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