How to Heal a Broken Heart That Feels Like It Will Never Love This Much Again

Give yourself time to heal.
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The pain of a breakup can be unbearable. You may feel an intense sadness and emptiness that consumes you. Your heart has been shattered and it feels like it will never love again as much as it did. Your broken heart will heal, but it's vital that you take steps to help heal your pain and loneliness.

1 Mourn Your Loss

Giving yourself time to grieve the loss of your relationship is an essential part of the healing process, says Preston Ni, private coach and author of "The Break-Up Cure: 7 Ways to Heal & Find Happiness" on the Psychology Today website. Embrace your feelings, whether you're feeling sad, hurt, angry, betrayed or lonely. Acknowledge that you're hurting and allow yourself to cry, scream and express your emotions. The best way for you to handle your grief and heartbreak is to deal with your emotions head-on, says Donna M. White, a clinical counselor and author of "Coping With the End of a Relationship" on PsychCentral.

2 Lean On Others

Having a support system is key to healing your broken heart. Spend time with your family and friends and talk to them about how you feel. They likely have been through a breakup and understand what you are going through. Share your fears, thoughts and emotions and let them help you through this rough period. While, it is normal and important to process your breakup, don't continuously rethink your past relationship and hurt, suggests Ni. Continuing to scrutinize what went wrong can make it difficult to move forward.

3 Put Yourself First

It's important to take good care of yourself while going through a breakup. Exercise helps to alleviate feelings of depression and anxiety, says "Alex" Caroline Robboy, a counselor and author of "How to Care for Yourself After a Breakup" on The Center for Growth website. It can improve your outlook on your situation and life. You may not feel like exercising, but force yourself to do it. For example, take a walk, ride your bike or go for a jog. Get enough sleep each night and eat healthy, regular meals. It can also be helpful to do something that you find relaxing and soothing. For example, take a hot bath, get a massage or listen to music.

4 Adjust Your Attitude

The way one thinks will effect his outlook and how he handles a breakup, says Tyler J. Andreula, a counselor and author of "Surviving Your Breakup" on PsychCentral. Remind yourself of the positive things in your life and the good qualities you possess. For example, you may have loving friends and family, a great job or a personality that makes people gravitate toward you. It may be helpful to make a list of everything you are thankful for in your life. Think about what you learned from your relationship that you may not have learned had it not been for that relationship, suggests White. Try to be thankful for the lessons that you learned.

Stacey Elkins is a writer based in Chicago. She earned a Bachelor of Arts in psychology from Southern Illinois University in Carbondale and a Masters in social work from the University of Illinois in Chicago, where she specialized in mental health.