How to Tell Him You Lost Your Promise Ring

Emphasize that you feel committed to him and will honor the promise, even without the ring.
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Your boyfriend gave you a promise ring, but now it's gone. Somehow, you lost it. Telling your boyfriend that you lost his promise ring is daunting, but these things happen. Be calm, sincere and communicate clearly when you explain to him that you lost the promise ring.

1 Be Calm

Avoid allowing your emotions to rule, advises psychotherapist Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., in the "Psychology Today" article, "10 Tools to Deal With Difficult Conversations." Before you tell your boyfriend you lost the promise ring, take a few minutes to do deep abdominal breathing to manage the stress. Know that encountering circumstances such as losing a treasured item is human and does not make you irresponsible.

2 Be Clear and Direct

Cut to the chase and say something like, "John, this is hard for me to say, but I'm afraid I lost my promise ring at the camp last weekend." Acknowledge that what you're telling him will upset him. Say to him, "I know you are probably disappointed, but I want you to know the ring meant the world to me." Offer to replace the ring, if you're able to do so. Reassure your boyfriend that you are committed to the relationship -- even if you don't have the symbol of a promise ring.

Elise Wile has been a writer since 2003. Holding a master's degree in curriculum and Instruction, she has written training materials for three school districts. Her expertise includes mentoring, serving at-risk students and corporate training.