What Are the Signs That Your Boyfriend Has Stopped Loving You?

Diminished communication may signal problems in your relationship.
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Over time, all couples will celebrate the high points of their relationships and weather the low points together. However, if your instincts tell you that something isn’t quite right, perhaps your boyfriend’s feelings have changed. Learn some of the signs that indicate your boyfriend has stopped loving you. Have an open discussion with him about any of the following red flags that a problem exists.

1 Squeamish Friends

If your boyfriend is truly mustering his courage to call it quits with you, his friends may appear uncomfortable when you come around, writes "Marie Claire" dating blogger Rich Santos in “Nine Signs He’s Cheating.” Remember that their loyalty to your boyfriend prevents a revelation of bad things to come, but the friends’ guilty consciences may speak louder than words. For example, if you encounter a friend in the hallway at school, he may avoid eye contact with you, struggle to speak or make a hasty retreat to his next class.

2 No Touching Allowed

A lack of intimacy, whether verbal or physical, may signal that your boyfriend has experienced a change of heart related to your relationship. Perhaps he no longer reminds you how much and why he loves you, or no longer holds your hand wherever you go. A withdrawal of intimacy suggests that your boyfriend no longer feels emotionally connected to you. The withdrawal can be a warning sign of cheating or another serious relationship problem.

3 What Didn't You Say?

Good communication is a vital component for the growth of most relationships, including those with your parents, teachers, friends and, yes, your boyfriend. Licensed mental health counselor Stephanie Sarkis, Ph.D., writes in the "Psychology Today" article “7 Signs You’re Headed for a Breakup” that an absence of communication points to serious problems in your relationship. For example, if you and your boyfriend previously enjoyed chatting about your fashion faux pas, or your mutual disdain for an algebra teacher, and you now find him strangely silent, consider his new behavior a sign of problems.

4 A War Zone

It’s normal for those in a relationship to disagree on little issues and, from time to time, bigger ones. If you observe that your boyfriend responds differently to disagreements, or even instigates arguments with you, this may be a sign that problems exist in the relationship. Maybe you worked out disagreements in the past through compromise and mutual respect for one another’s viewpoints, but now your boyfriend appears unwilling to do so. A cycle of unresolved arguments can point to larger underlying issues.