Good Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend if You Don't Know if He Loves You

Talk to him openly about your relationship.
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You've been dating for some time now, but you aren't 100 percent sure he truly loves you. If he hasn't said those three words yet, knowing what questions might elicit them will help you figure if he does -- or doesn't -- have that loving feeling and put your relationship into perspective.

1 A Bond

The two of you have an electric spark that ignites whenever the other one walks into the room. Without a close emotional bond, physical attraction is more like a crush than a real relationship, notes the TeensHealth article "Love and Romance." If you're not sure if it's only attraction or it is really true love, ask your guy questions about closeness. For example, ask him, "Do you feel like you share your feelings with me?" or "Do you want us to get to know each other on a deep, meaningful level?"

2 Other People

Although exclusivity doesn't always equal love, having a monogamous relationship may indicate that your guy has deep feelings for you. Chances are, if your guy loves you, he wants to be with you -- and only you. Excluding other dating options shows that he's on the road to a real romantic relationship with you. If you want to assess his exclusivity factor, ask something like, "Do you see yourself with me, and only me, now and in the future?"

3 Outright Ask

Men may find expressing their feelings "feminine" or even scary, notes clinical psychologist Barbara Markway in her article "Relationship Problems? Unlock the Code of Men's Feelings" for Psychology Today. Even though your guy may love you, his stress level when it comes to emotional expression may stop him from saying so. If you suspect that he does love you, and you feel completely comfortable with him, go ahead and ask outright. If you don't want to come out and say, "Do you love me?" try something such as, "I have really intense feelings toward you. How do you feel about me?"

4 Your Happiness and Commitment

When a guy loves you, he'll show a major level of concern for your well-being and happiness. If you want to know whether or not he loves you, question his priorities. For example, start a conversation with, "I feel like I need a promise to stay together through thick and thin to be happy with you. Can you do this for me?" If he can't commit to you in this type of way, he may not truly love you. On the other hand, if he answers with an ecstatic "yes," it's likely he does.

Based in Pittsburgh, Erica Loop has been writing education, child development and parenting articles since 2009. Her articles have appeared in "Pittsburgh Parent Magazine" and the website PBS Parents. She has a Master of Science in applied developmental psychology from the University of Pittsburgh's School of Education.