How to Apologize to Your Girlfriend When You Broke a Promise to Visit Her at College

Apologies that come off as excuses may keep a girlfriend from forgiving.
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It happens to the best of us -- you promise to visit your girlfriend at college, only to find that you never quite find the time to make the trip. While accepting fault and apologizing can be difficult, doing so is worthwhile when it means her forgiveness and a continued, close relationship.

1 Giving an Apology

The focus of your apology should be on what you did wrong and how it hurt your girlfriend, not on your reasoning for doing it in the first place, according to the TeensHealth article "Apologizing." Apologies can also be accompanied with an explanation of how you plan to make amends, such as offering to visit her in the future. An apology should include your regrets, acknowledgement of the impact your mistake had on your girlfriend and a request for forgiveness, according to psychologist Guy Winch in the Psychology Today article "The Five Ingredients of an Effective Apology." Accordingly, you might say "I'm sorry that I broke my promise to visit you at college. I ended up having more homework than I expected, but I could have finished it earlier. I'm sorry for how much I upset and hurt you. I hope that you can forgive me."

Candice Coleman worked in the public school system as a middle school and high school substitute teacher. In addition to teaching, she is also a tutor for high school and college students.