What Should I Do if My Girlfriend Breaks Up With Me?

Depression is normal after the end of a relationship.
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Maybe you were planning for the future when your girlfriend announced that your future would not involve her. Your emotions after a breakup may range from anger to relief. You may also feel conflicted about how to go forward and whether you can rectify what caused the breakup. While there are no guarantees regarding how your future will play out, there are ways to feel better.

1 Thinking It Over

The sudden end to a relationship with your girlfriend can leave you struggling for answers. You may want to get back together, pursue a friendship, or simply get an answer as to why things are over. It is normal to still have feelings for your ex-girlfriend, according to the Center for Young Women's Health article, "How to Deal with a Breakup." Take time to evaluate the relationship and think about any positives -- or negatives -- that it brought into your life. Avoiding contact with your ex for several weeks can also give you a chance to heal from the breakup.

2 Concentrate on Self-Care

Breakups can lead people to stop taking care of themselves, but self-care should remain a priority of yours even after a split. Eating nutritious meals, engaging in exercise sessions and getting plenty of sleep are important, according to the TeensHealth article "Getting Over a Break-Up." Give yourself time to grieve and mourn the relationship -- there is nothing wrong with crying or writing your thoughts out. Leaning on friends in a time of hardship can also help you get back on your feet.

3 Emotional Support

Seeking out supportive family members after a breakup can help you get perspective on your situation, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics-sponsored website HealthyChildren.org in the article "When to Let Your Teenager Start Dating." You may want to ask them how they handled breakups when they were young, and what they learned from the experience. Relatives may also have some perspective on your relationship; maybe they were concerned about how your ex-girlfriend treated you. While you mourn your relationship, it is also okay to ask those around you to tell you about your strengths, according to TeensHealth's "Getting Over a Break-Up."

4 Needing Help

Getting involved in old hobbies and keeping yourself busy can take your mind off of the grief, according to the Center for Young Women's Health. Sometimes, though, your depression may intensify as time goes on, and the social, school and home aspects of your life may suffer. You may also have thoughts about hurting yourself. If you are not seeing improvement after a breakup, consider seeing your doctor or a mental health professional. If it is an emergency, you can also call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline for assistance (see Resources).

Candice Coleman worked in the public school system as a middle school and high school substitute teacher. In addition to teaching, she is also a tutor for high school and college students.