How to Get Over a Severe Heartbreak
Being in love brings feelings of euphoria and elation. While this can make you feel alive and on top of the world, when a breakup occurs, the sudden letdown can leave you with a severely broken heart. Heartbreak is described by many people as a combination of sadness, heaviness and emptiness, according to the TeensHealth website. Meredith Hansen, Psy.D., a clinical psychologist and relationship expert, states in a Psych Central article that while time can help to heal a broken heart, there are steps you can take to begin to feel better in the present moment.
1 Feelings Are for Sharing
Find a trusted friend or family member to share your heartbreak with. Don't lose hope or take it personally if the first person you confide in dismisses your feelings or is unable to share your pain. This has to do with that person's ability to deal with another person's heartache, and it may trigger deeper feelings within her that she is unable to express. Males may have an easier time sharing their feelings with an older sister or another female they are close to, according to the article "Getting Over a Break-Up," published on the KidsHealth website.
2 Build Yourself Up
A severe heartbreak can leave you with an overall feeling of low self-esteem. Get involved in clubs and activities you enjoy as a way to feel good about yourself again; you will also be more likely to meet like-minded people, according to the article "Help Your Teen With Heartbreak," published on the Disney family.com website. Connecting with friends that you may have seen less of while romantically involved can help you to get your mind off of your breakup and give you a much-needed support system.
3 Take Baby Steps
There are days when you will likely feel like hiding or staying in bed. While it's unhealthy to withdraw from family and friends on a regular basis, occasionally giving yourself a personal time-out can help you to gather your thoughts and sort through these tough feelings. For instance, when you have tough days, pat yourself on the back for getting out of bed and taking your dog for a walk, recommends the Psych Central article "Help on Healing From Heartbreak." These baby steps will heal you and propel you into the future one step at a time.
4 Acknowledge Your Beauty
Focus on the positive things about yourself. Getting enough sleep, exercising and eating right can help you relieve stress and minimize depression, according to KidsHealth. If you find you are continuously blaming yourself for the breakup and you are unable to see beyond your faults, ask your friends to remind you of the qualities that draw them to you. Everyone needs reassurance now and then. If you are feeling worse as time passes, consider talking to a mental health professional.