How do I Find Honest & Sincere Friendships?

True friends find each other through honest and sincere sharing.
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Making friends is essential to happiness, but you need to ensure that these friendships are honest and sincere. Before you put your trust in someone, it is important to find out if they are honest and whether your bond will be sincere. Fortunately, finding friends you can trust and with whom you can be genuine all begins with you.

1 Be an Honest Friend

Ask yourself how honest you are in your friendships and whether you sincerely value your friends. If you are a trustworthy friend, it is likely that you will attract others who are sincere and place a high value on trust. On the other hand, if you find yourself gossiping about others or being judgmental, then it is time to work on being a better friend. As you grow in honesty and security, so will your friendships.

2 Be True to Yourself

In an effort to gain friends, it is important not to lose yourself in the process. Being fake to impress others or acting in ways that don't reflect who you truly are tends to backfire in the long run. Be honest and upfront about your likes, dislikes, interests and beliefs from the start so people know where you stand and whether they'd like to get to know you more.

3 Be Sincere

Approach people you meet with an open, friendly and kind demeanor and not with ulterior motives or in an effort to get something in return. Be straightforward and direct, but don't try to push yourself on others. Honest and sincere friendships must happen naturally and the way you come across initially is essential to this process. "Give relationships time to blossom slowly and eventually deepen," writes psychologist Irene S. Levine in her "Psychology Today" article, "5 Simple Ways to Improve Your Friendships in 2012."

4 Be Your Own Best Friend

As good friends come into your life, continue to be true to your own needs. Maintain your personal balance and integrity and be honest about your limits. Avoid getting into a caregiver roles with friends, warns sociologist and author Jan Yaeger in her article, "Friendships...When to Hold 'em or Fold 'em," on the Caring Today website. Genuine friends have a give and take with one another. Honor and take care of yourself first so that sincere, honest friendships can find you.

Sia Alexander-Brume attended Stanford University and Howard University, graduating Magna Cum Laude with a Bachelor of Science in human psychology. After working in her field as a therapist in San Francisco, she decided to pursue a career in fashion as a Ford model. Today she writes a blog which chronicles her journey of healing and service as she travels around the promotes her book, "I AM: You Power This Life."