Whether she is your friend, girlfriend or sister, a lady in your life is feeling a little discouraged lately. Her self-esteem is shot, and you know she could really use a good pick-me-up. Since she is usually there to give you her words of encouragement, you likely want to return the favor and show her that you care. Giving her the right compliments may be the key to brighten her day and give her the boost of confidence that she needs.
You Are So Beautiful
She may be down about something regarding her appearance. A young woman's body issues are heavily influenced by media and cultural messages, according to Dr. Carolyn Ross in her Psych Central article, "Why Do Women Hate Their Bodies?" But you can stop her negative self-talk. Counteract the feelings she is having about herself by saying something positive, according to the Teens Health article, "How Can I Improve My Self-Esteem?" Perhaps you can pick a specific feature you adore about her to encourage her, such as her eyes or smile. Talk about her inner beauty as well, such as her caring heart.
You Really Inspire Me
Letting her know that she is a role model for you can be encouraging. Tell her how she inspires you to do new things to boost her mood, according to psychologist Alice Boyes in her Psychology Today article, "5 Ways to Give a Compliment." Think of an admired trait and compliment her. Maybe you could say, "Watching your determination to win the marathon really inspired me to sign up for the 5K run this year." Or perhaps you could say, "I really want to take a cooking class to have half of the culinary skills you have."
You Are An Achiever
Remind her of something she accomplished in the past to encourage her to complete her current goals. Acknowledging accomplishments can let someone know their value, according to psychologist John Grohol in his PsychCentral article, "6 Tips to Improve Your Self-Esteem." Perhaps your sister is worried about passing an exam. Tell her, "You come from a smart family. No need to worry, you aced the last two." Maybe your friend has a concern about making the cheerleading squad. You could say, "I think you have a good shot. Remember how you made the dance team in middle school."
You Are Unique
She may be the type of person who often compares herself to other people. Comparing yourself to others can be damaging to how you feel about yourself, says Grohol. Remind her of how she is truly one of a kind. For example, she may feel that another classmate is smarter than her. You could say, "There's no need to compare. You're quite clever yourself." Or she hates how she is the tallest member in her family and wishes she was shorter. You could say, "Very few people can be look like a super model."
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