How to Apologize for Being Wrong About a Suspicion in a Relationship

Engaging in an honest conversation about your mistakes can make or break your relationship.
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Relationships are based on communication, but sometimes even the happiest couples run into bumps and challenges. Accusations due to paranoia or lack of facts can be hurtful to your partner, as well as detrimental to your companionship. Admitting you are wrong can be difficult, but with careful preparation, your apology can be honest, heartfelt and effective in saving your love.

Accept that you were wrong in this situation. Keep in mind that making mistakes is a part of being human, and it does not make you weak or a bad person. Admitting to yourself that you made an error can be tough, but recognizing it will make your apology come across as sincere to your partner.

Schedule a time for you and your partner to talk in private. This can be at a coffee shop, at home or in a park. Be sure your chosen location is a place you are comfortable speaking in. For example, a sporting event or movie theater would be a poor choice to bring up an apology, due to the noise and adrenaline. Making your apology in seclusion will show him that your focus is on the issue at hand and not something that you are saying in a desperate attempt to mend a disagreement.

Explain to your beau why you felt that he was being unfaithful. Refrain from being accusatory in your list, but gently point out what led you to be suspicious in the first place. He may offer explanations in return. Even if you have heard them before, give him your full attention and make it known that you understand that each instance was innocent and truthful.

Offer your apology to him. Engage in eye contact and sound as sincere as possible. Consider making light contact, such as touching his hand. It is also important that your body language matches your conversation. Stay relaxed in your posture and facial expressions, as well as softening your voice so as not to sound defensive.

Make a plan for the future. Promise your partner that from this point forward, you will have an honest conversation with him if you feel uncomfortable about anything in your relationship. Showing him that you are owning up to your mistake will help in mending the situation. In addition, it shows maturity, personal growth and commitment to your love.

  • Always offer an apology in person. Words written in letters, emails or texts can be misconstrued or even lost in transit. Face-to-face contact is the best tactic for an honest conversation.

Ashley K. Alaimo is a writer, blogger and certified teacher in New York. She has a master's degree in elementary education and early childhood education from Medaille College, as well as a bachelor's degree in music and theater from Buffalo State College. Alaimo has also worked as an education specialist with ages birth to 12 years old, creating classroom and enrichment curriculum for various early childhood centers.