Despite how much you care about him, there may be things about your boyfriend that annoy you, so you're probably not shocked to learn that some things you do likely annoy him. Every relationship is different, but there are some common things that annoy boyfriends in general. You might not even realize you’re doing some of these things, but becoming aware of them can help you change behaviors that he may perceive as annoying.
Your boyfriend may have some bad habits that he should lose, but nagging him about them -- despite your good intentions -- could get annoying. You might not even know that you’re nagging. You may think you’re simply encouraging him to reach a greater potential. But, according to marriage and family therapist Michele Weiner-Davis, in the WebMD.com article, "How to Stop Nagging," you're nagging him if you continue to repeat a request or reminder. If you find that you’re constantly reminding your boyfriend to do his homework or eat healthy, for example, you may think you’re helping him. However, he may become offended or frustrated in response. Nagging leads many men to feel resentful of their partners, explains sociologist James V. Downton, Jr., in his book, “Screwing Up Love: Or How to Make Love Grow and Last."
Insecurity and Uncertainty
Although everyone has their insecurities, dwelling on them can annoy a boyfriend who has to constantly reassure you. He will surely become irritated if you never accept his compliments -- either by disagreeing with them, changing the subject or questioning how genuine he is. For example: Your boyfriend tells you you’re beautiful and you respond by saying “No, I’m not,” or, “You’re just saying that!” This could become annoying if you are not only questioning your self-worth, but his sincerity and attraction to you.
Being Overly Sensitive
A top complaint by men in psychotherapy is that their wives or girlfriends are too sensitive, according to the book, “If Love Could Think: Using Your Mind to Guide Your Heart,” by clinical psychologist Alon Gratch. Your boyfriend may become annoyed if he feels like he’s walking on eggshells and can’t fully express himself without offending you. He may become irritated if he can’t tell jokes or make constructive criticism without expecting an argument. In the PsychCentral.com article, “Insecurity Undermines Relationships,” author Rick Nauert, Ph.D., explains that people who are extremely insecure are more likely to be overly sensitive and easily offended because they often misinterpret their partner’s intentions, words and actions.
Clinginess or Codependency
As much as your boyfriend loves spending time with you, he may become annoyed if you are clingy and demand too much attention. According to the PsychCentral.com article, “Are You Trapped & Unhappy in Your Relationship?” by Darlene Lancer, you’re clingy if your life revolves around your partner. If he is not codependent, he may feel smothered if you’ve given up your friends and hobbies to spend time with him, and especially if you expect him to do the same. He may want to spend more time with his guy friends without having to answer your calls. He may not want to hang out with you all the time. This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want to be with you, but relationships require a healthy dose of independence for both people.
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