Romantic Gestures And Ideas

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Romantic gestures show affection and appreciation for your sweetheart. You can use easy, everyday demonstrations along with over-the-top displays for special occasions. Romantic moments make your bond stronger, according to psychotherapist Barton Goldsmith in the Psychology Today article "The Importance of Romance." What is romantic to you, however, might not be to your love interest, so discuss preferences to be sure your gestures will be well-received..

1 Say It With Variety

Your paramour needs to hear you express your love often, but saying it the same way each time can make it lose its meaning over time. Choose a different way to say “I love you” on a frequent basis, suggest Jim and Carrie Gordon, authors of “The Intimate Couple,” writing for Your Tango. Use the American Sign Language version of thumb, index finger and little finger raised with the middle and ring fingers folded into the palm. Alternatively, deliver your message in a language such as French -- “je t’aime” or “je t’adore."

2 Keep Communicating

If you can’t be with your love, send a romantic message via text, email, chat, written note or a snail mail letter. Send a text during the day to remind her you are thinking of her or slip a note inside a book, purse or backpack. Hand-write a card and mail it, including a picture of the two of you. Use your finger to write a message on her frosted windshield or leave a note on the visor. Make the note more special by including words that let her know how special she is to you, such as “You make me smile every day.”

3 Small Gestures, Big Impact

Make a calendar using pictures of the two of you having fun. Tackle something on his “to-do” list or bring him a small gift, such as a stick of gum or a drink on a hot day. Pack a picnic lunch and spend time together on a beautiful day. Hug him when you meet and leave one another. Hold hands when you walk together. Cheer him on when he competes in sports or academics. Dance to the music only the two of you hear or serenade one another.

4 Beyond the Ordinary

Gestures that accompany big moments don’t have to be expensive, but they should be meaningful. Bring cookies and drinks to celebrate victories, such as a scholarship, job promotion or other accomplishment. Write one affectionate gesture per small slip of paper and present them all to her in a box with a note that says she can redeem them with you. Acknowledge an important anniversary for her, such as the day you met or when she got her braces off.

Rev. Kathryn Rateliff Barr has taught birth, parenting, vaccinations and alternative medicine classes since 1994. She is a pastoral family counselor and has parented birth, step, adopted and foster children. She holds bachelor's degrees in English and history from Centenary College of Louisiana. Studies include midwifery, naturopathy and other alternative therapies.