Some people have trouble gracefully accepting compliments, often because of low self-esteem, says psychologist Guy Winch in an article for "Psychology Today." However, if you brush off a compliment from a guy, it can make him feel like he has poor taste or bad judgment. You can acknowledge a compliment with a smile and a simple "thank you." Showing appreciation for a compliment tells the guy that you value his opinion and have the confidence to accept praise.
A compliment should always be responded to with a "thank you," says LisaMarie Luccioni, adjunct professor of communication at the University of Cincinnati, in an article for "Psychology Today." For example, if you were complimented on the toast that you gave at your sister's wedding, say something like, "Thanks, that is nice of you to say" or "Thank you, I really appreciate that." If you wish to go a step further, you could add a comment such as "I put a lot of time into preparing what to say" or "That means a lot to me."
Start a Conversation
If you wish to talk further, a thank you can be followed up with a conversation opener, says Penelope Trunk in "Brazen Careerist: The New Rules for Success," After you offer thanks, say something like, "What did you think of the meal?" or "What was your favorite part of the day?" Don't rack your brain trying to come up with the perfect thing to say -- any comment that moves the conversation forward will help you get to know the guy better. If you do not wish to talk further, there is nothing more to do than gracefully accept the compliment as offered.
- Psychology Today: How to Receive a Compliment
- Brazen Careerist: The New Rules for Success; Penelope Trunk
- Psychology Today: Why Some People Hate Receiving Compliments
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