Although the spark of electricity that lights up a new relationship may seem like it will keep going forever, it may need some help to stay lit for longer than the first few dates. Keeping your new guy interested takes a blend of qualities and behaviors that hold his attention and make him want to come back for more.
While it might seem like all guys want are girls with hot looks, keeping your man interested takes more than just your physical appearance. Making a true romantic connection also includes closeness and commitment. Although you don't need to -- and typically shouldn't -- profess your love when you have just started dating, you can begin to share who you really are during this time. For example, grab your guy's interest by telling him what your hopes for your future career are or share a proud moment with him.
Interested vs. Interesting
Even though you may confidently know that you're the most interesting girl that your guy has ever met, pushing that idea down his throat is a turn-off. Instead of being interesting all of the time, act interested. Focus the attention on your guy, asking him more questions than you make statements about yourself. While sharing information about yourself is an essential part of getting to know someone, don't overdo it. This may make your guy feel like you don't care about him. Ask him questions about himself and his feelings, showing him that you're interested in him.
Thinking you've found "the one" shouldn't mean that you immediately settle down and act like a middle-aged married couple. You're still young and should use the initial dating period to explore your mutual interests through fun-filled activities. For example, set up a creative date night in which you take your guy out to play a round of mini golf before heading off to his favorite dance club. While coming up with exciting date ideas will grab his interest, keep him on the hook by also agreeing to his suggestions. If he asks you to go rock climbing or hit balls at the batting cage, show your willingness to play and try his activities.
Just because your guy is still trying to get to know you doesn't mean that you have to hold back from trying to surprise him. Get your boyfriend's interest up by catching him off guard and surprising him with flirty little treats. For example, send him a sweet "Good morning" text when he isn't expecting it, sneak a handwritten note into his math folder for him to find before class or bring takeout from his favorite restaurant when he thinks that you're just coming over to watch a movie.
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