In the Jewish faith, a Bat Mitzvah celebrates a girl's coming of age when she joins the adult community at her Temple. The party and service for family and friends recognizes years of preparation, including Hebrew classes and religious education. Traditionally, the Rabbi will invite the entire congregation and the child being Bat Mitzvahed will invite family, classmates, family friends and others. As with any celebratory event, certain etiquette rules apply and sensitivity toward such a significant event is important.

Read the instructions for attendance reply on the invitation. Typically, invitations will include a separate RSVP card, though some smaller events will simply request notification via phone or email.

Remove the RSVP card and complete the information as requested, such as number of attendees. Note that, unless specified, children or dates are not invited to the service and celebration.

Answer any additional questions such as those regarding particular dietary needs and travel accommodations. Assume responsibility for any accommodations you or your family require, unless the host mentions such issues on the RSVP card or invitation.

Write a brief note of thanks at the bottom of the card. Something simple such as, "Thank you for inviting us! We are delighted to celebrate Rachel's Bat Mitzvah" is sufficient.

Mail the RSVP note no later than two days of receiving the invitation or whenever you know the number attending. Large celebrations are difficult enough to coordinate and late straggling replies only add to the stress. Having said this, it's better to wait a few days than have to call and change your original RSVP card.

Tip

  • Understand that positively responding to a Bat Mitzvah means attending both the service and the celebration party afterward.