Verbal communication is simply the communication that is expressed through words. What you say is verbal communication. What you don’t say is nonverbal communication. Verbal communication is vital to healthy relationships, businesses and groups. Although on 10 percent of what is said actually makes it way into a person’s long-term memory bank, verbal communication plays an essential role in daily life. It’s seen when the President makes a speech, a teacher lectures or a husband and wife work through an issue.
Agrees With Nonverbal Communication
Verbal communication should agree with the nonverbal communicated associated with it. For example, if someone says, “I love you” and then turns around and punches them, the two forms of communication don’t agree leading to a new meaning. Or if an employer verbally communicates to a team that they’re doing a great job and deserve a raise, but never see their paycheck increase, this breeds miscommunication. When verbal and nonverbal communication agree, there is typically understanding and unity.
Interpersonal verbal communication is the oral words used between two people. This can be the interaction of ordering at a restaurant, talking to your parents or embracing your lover. Interpersonal communication occurs whenever you verbally communicate with another person, regardless of the reason or situation.
One form of verbal communication is commonly seen in public speaking. Public speaking is when an individual communicates to a group of more then two people. Public speaking happens on a daily basis when teachers teach, business people lead meetings and church groups gather for small group discussions. Many people are timid when it comes to public speaking because of the level of vulnerability it requires.
A good verbal communicator can put what they want to say in a short sentence and be understood. Some people are better communicators then others, and everyone can expand their ability. Practicing your verbal communication skills can help alleviate misunderstandings, resolve conflict and increase productivity. Practice by thinking through what you want to say and then asking the listener if they understood you. Quiz them to see how effectively you communicated and how well they were listening.
When you choose to engage in verbal communication, there is a personal responsibility you carry as the communicator. This is why it is advised to think through what you want to say before you say it. Put yourself in the listener’s position. Are you making sense? Are your words complicated or do they carry a negative connotation? Verbal communication has the power to encourage or destroy, so choose your words carefully.
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