Men and women are different. The self-help section in the bookstore is overflowing with texts confirming this obvious fact. While the behavior of guys may baffle women at times, their motivations are often quite simple.
Always On Their Minds
Guys think about sex more than women do. This is not breaking news. But what guys want you to know is that there is a huge difference between thinking about it and doing something about it. Looking at the attractive waitress may provide inspiration for future fantasies. That doesn't mean that they have any intention of cheating. Contrary to popular belief, men can commit. Many actually prefer monogamous relationships. In a study of married men, 90 percent said that they would marry the same woman again if given a second chance.
The L Word
Words don't mean as much to guys. So if you want reassurance that he really loves you, don't ask, watch. Guys show their love through actions. If he fills up your gas tank before you even notice it is low, brings you coffee in bed or picks up your dry cleaning --- he's head over heels. And if you want to strengthen your bond, don't just discuss it, get out and do something. Guys feel closer to their partners through shared activities, and of course, sex. So grab a snowboard, tennis racket or bowling ball and get out there with your guy. Or just stay home in bed. Either way, he'll be delighted.
We all know that men and women have different communication styles. This can make life tricky. Men may not always pick up on your body language and facial expressions. If you are upset about something, you need to say so -- directly and clearly. And if it feels like he is not listening, you might be wrong. Men are less likely to acknowledge everything you say. Instead of wasting energy on nodding his head or murmuring "uhhm-hmm," he's focusing on you.
Your guy loves spending time with you, but sometimes he needs a break. When he goes out for a night with his buddies, he is able to relax, let loose and be comfortable in a way that is only possible during male bonding. Don't call or worry -- remember, men can and do commit. Give him the time and space he needs to be a guy. He'll come back happier and refreshed. And while you're at it, take the time to go see your girlfriends or enjoy being alone for the evening. Your relationship will be better for it.
Stroke Their Egos
Guys may act like they don't care what you think, but they do. In fact, they may even worry about it. A man is happiest in a relationship when he feels respected and desired. Let him know how much you love being with him. Affirm his efforts at work and home and compliment his rugged good looks. Everybody loves a compliment -- maybe we're not that different after all.
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